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Ep 59: Identity Series w/ Christina L. Woods - Empowerment Strategies for High-Achieving Solopreneurs

June 11, 2024 • Nikisha King | Certified Life & Business Coach • Season 2 • Episode 59

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Have you ever wondered how deeply ingrained beliefs influence your decisions?

Join clinical hypnotherapist and empowerment coach Christina L. Woods as she introduces the concept of the "divine curriculum" and emphasizes the power of shedding limiting beliefs to uncover your most authentic self.

This episode is tailored for high-achieving solopreneurs looking to transcend self-doubt and embrace their true potential.

Here are some Key Takeaways from today's episode:

1. Quiet Reflection and Intuition: Embrace the transformative power of quiet reflection and intuition in decision-making. Learn to reconnect with your inner self through methods like hypnosis and journaling.

2. Managing Social Media Distractions: Discover techniques to maintain focus and clarity in a world dominated by social media distractions. Understand the importance of sitting with your thoughts for personal growth.

3. Journaling and Introspection: Explore the profound impact of journaling and introspection on personal and professional growth. Learn how to manage emotions stored in your body's cellular memory and set clear boundaries to shift your identity.

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Nikisha King:

Hello, gorgeous, welcome to NK Production Leading Her Way podcast, where we see the human, evolving and resilient spirit in you. I'm your host, N nikesha King, and welcome to the Identity Series. Today you're going to meet Christina L Woods, a clinical hypnotherapist, rapid transformational therapist, empowerment coach and Reiki master. Christina has a rich background in corporate leadership and her personal experiences of overcoming trauma and abandonment has allowed her to empower women like you and me to trust our intuition and break free from self-doubt. As a CEO and founder of her own practice, she specializes in helping us shed programming through deep hypnotherapy and coaching, guiding us to become self-reliant and live the life that we choose. Christina is a force in our world and I'm so happy to have her on the Identity Series. So please relax and enjoy our conversation on identifying our core curriculum, aka identity and how it affects our decision-making process.

Nikisha King:

Let's dive into episode 59 with Christina L Woods. Hello Christina, thank you so much for joining the Leading Her Way podcast. I am so excited to have you here, where we're going to speak about hypnosis. We're going to speak about decision making, about your identity and how that dictates your decision making, and I would love for our audience to get to know you a little bit better, other than the bio I shared with them, but tell me, in regards to what you do, so let them know, and also, how did you fall in love, or what makes you do what you do?

Christina L. Woods:

Thank you so much, nikisha. So yeah, I am a hypnotherapist, a coach, an energy healer, and I'm just so grateful I get this opportunity to have this incredible second career. I started it when I was almost 50, just like I think Martha Stewart says she had her career started hers at 50. So I always remember that. But I love what I do because I help high achieving women find their authentic self, their authentic voice, and shed beliefs that cloud that. Because we all have a divine curriculum.

Christina L. Woods:

You know, an assignment here, these gifts that we're here for so many times limiting beliefs or beliefs that we feel society, the world, puts upon us for no other reason than that's. You know, that's the way the world works. So the meaning that we attach to things when we're raised and we go to school and church and our community and that meaning that we attach to things is really there to keep us safe. Our mind does that. It thinks it's doing a great thing, but not always. It's there to protect us and keep us safe.

Christina L. Woods:

Our mind does that. It thinks it's doing a great thing, but not always. It's there to protect us and keep us safe and for no other reason. That's its primary job and for sometimes it puts us in a box. So my job that I love so much, my why every day, is to help high achieving women in businesses entrepreneurs. Really just focus on what is your authentic self and so you can be your full potential and shed all these other limiting beliefs and the meaning you attach that might not help you with your divine curriculum.

Nikisha King:

Such a good point. I love that and I'm grateful that you're in the world, because it's a task. It's a task because we all start from somewhere as young human beings, and we are blessed with family and friends that do guide us, but they only can guide us from a place that they know. So wherever they are in their life is what they give to you. Be in it whatever it is, and I don't consider it good or bad, it's just what they know and they give, but that may not serve you as you mature into your journey. So I feel like that's always good to be mindful. So, in understanding where I am, I'm in my forties now, but I'm very aware, when I started my 40 year journey, that I was carrying around gifts I was given by my parents, by my loved ones, by external college professors, all of it. They gave me gifts that minimized who I am, and those gifts piled up and I couldn't find the true I am or my core curriculum because of all of the stuff I've been given. So I had to learn how to reanalyze what I was given and see if it served me, and if it didn't, I had to give it back, I had to let it go. So I think it's amazing about what you're sharing and what we're going to be sharing on this podcast.

Nikisha King:

In doing the identity series, I had an introduction last week about what identity means, the labels and all the things we carry around, but in this episode I would love to speak about how your core curriculum factors into your decision-making, because, as business owners, we have a lot of decisions we make and I shouldn't say a lot. It depends on who you are, but I think every day we make decisions. Should I put on the shoes? Should I put on that outfit? Why am I putting it on? Why am I doing this? And I want to know and I have a conversation about our core curriculum, our identity, our I am. How does that affect our decisions? How does that either put us in a box or put us outside the box? So I want you to share with us how you define an identity. How do you help your clients know who they are, or how do you get them to even see where they are at that point in time?

Christina L. Woods:

Yeah, Well, any label we give ourselves limits ourselves. So you know, we, we can even say you know I'm, I'm successful, I'm a corporate, this, I'm a fantastic. Any label limits ourselves. So you know, that's really important to understand and it's it's really important to just try to shoot for.

Christina L. Woods:

And this is in the work that I do and this was a very hard to swallow A gift I was given was you are a worker bee, you work, we work in this family. You know, I worked since I was 14, even probably sooner. Single mother, family, Italian family, immigrants. You know this is what you do, and so that was, that was my identity and therefore validation came from outside achievements and that was the lens. Like, okay, that's what I do, that's, that's the lens I can do that. I can go get lots of validation outside. Until I had to shift that lens to wait, I got lots of validation outside. What if I don't get the validation? Does that mean I'm not good enough on the inside? So part of that identity with making business decisions is let's find out what lens are we looking through.

Christina L. Woods:

The I am, what's, what comes after the I am really is key to looking at that, Because if all of our I am's come from outside, you know, then we really need to take a pause here and find out, and one of the core principles I work with is based in something called the Sedona method and a coach that I worked with for a very long time, which is we have these core values that we all come with, which is, whether you call it nature, a higher power, whatever, you want something outside of ourselves, a gift that is just divinely within us when we're born, a baby that is born, we all would agree, I believe, that they're already approved of, they're already have of, they already have enough ability within themselves to be safe and in control and approved of, regardless, perhaps, of the circumstances. This is their divine right to have those things. And I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel approved of. When a stranger smiles at me on the street, yes, I could get a big bonus at work or achieve a goal, and that makes me feel approved of. When a stranger smiles at me on the street, yes, I could get a big bonus at work or achieve a goal, and that makes me feel approved of as well. But when a baby laughs or a butterfly lands on my glass, it's like whew, that's a sign. Yes, I feel great.

Christina L. Woods:

So approval comes in the most surprising ways from life itself and not always from the way we've defined it right. So back to identity. It's what is the lens that we're looking through and making sure that we haven't given all of our cups of approval, control and safety out for other people, things, situations, circumstances to fill up. And can we take our jars back, our cups back and fill them up ourselves? Because when we ask other people's circumstances, our jobs, our business achievements, business plans, you know all those things are important. I have them as, just as much as the next entrepreneur.

Christina L. Woods:

But when everything our identity is based on those things and then we achieve them or we don't achieve them or we exceed them, what we're saying is that is our identity.

Christina L. Woods:

And you know I beg to differ. Our identity, whether we achieve them or not, is guess what? We're all enough anyway. So pulling all those feelers back, those cups back, and saying let's find a way, because we all have an innate need to feel accepted and not rejected. And you know this goes back so primal and tribal, not to want to be, you know, kicked off the range or the tribe, and you know we can't survive and so we really need to understand. It's a very primal need to feel accepted. That is okay. But finding ways where we innately understand that it helps have compassion for ourselves, to know like I'm really wanting acceptance and approval. Wait a second. Yeah, the bank account's great and there's no shame in wanting that bank account to grow or to look good or feel good or all those things. But I promise you, when you get those things, you still might not feel enough, because that's not what that identity is about.

Nikisha King:

That's such a valid point because so many of, especially, business owners, especially entrepreneurs, when we think about validation and we cannot, we haven't learned yet how to get it from within our sales makes us feel high or low. You get a sale, you feel high. You don't get a sale, you feel low. Yes, and usually when we're feeling low, we're not able to do the action, we're not able to do the work to generate our sales, to generate leads, to do the work. And it's always interesting to see how we tie our identity with the outside. All the labels you carry, like you said, entrepreneur, mother, spouse, partner, single mom, everything, educator, teacher, whatever that label is sometimes we get lost in it and that's where some of our beliefs come from. If you're a teacher, you're lost in the fact that you have to get your assessment numbers high to ensure that you show the school, the superintendent, that you're doing your job. Yeah, but you forget. The reason you became a teacher is because you're really good at making things easy for people to understand.

Christina L. Woods:

Yeah, and I love that you say that, because when you connect back with your why, you know your deep why. Like pause for a second and you know it's so perfect. I have teachers in my family and it's the last few weeks of school, so they're really stressed out. They're really, you know, on, really the kids are not behaving, the grades are due, the parents are angry, everyone's stressed out. But so, whatever your corporate position is right now in your business, whatever you do, you know right now, wherever you're at decisions, you have to make pause and think about your why and then pause and think about a deeper why and a deeper why and a deeper why. Okay, about a deeper why and a deeper why and a deeper why. Okay, because when you, you get more of what you feel and you get more of what you feel. So when we're in the okay, yeah, but yeah, but forget what. Forget about the kids that I serve. I've got to turn in my grades. I got to turn in my grades. I got to turn in my grades. I'm late, I'm late, I'm late, I'm late. That's obviously a mindset of I'm behind, I'm lacking, I didn't meet my deadlines. I'm going to get more of that. I mean, this is a basic subconscious mindset cycle treadmill, and so when we can just get back to the, why wait a second?

Christina L. Woods:

I love helping. I love my students. I'm here to help transform their lives. I'm here to make them better human beings on the earth. This is why I wake up every day. Whatever your why is, I'm here to make a difference in whether you're in the plumbing world, whatever you do, I love the people I work with. I want to make them laugh every day. Then that's your why. And I want to retire in Fiji one day and hang out on the beach Okay, great.

Christina L. Woods:

But your why is so important? Because then, the little things that we need to do or the big things we need to do, they don't cloud our why. Because it's so easy to feel behind or I didn't do it right, or gosh forbid. We go on social media and compare ourselves and get into that rat race of comparisonitis or whatever it's called, but where everyone else looks like their business is making a million dollars in six months. So it's easy to do that, but we get more of what we feel.

Christina L. Woods:

And I see so many entrepreneurs 90% of my clients are entrepreneurs doctors, lawyers, some sort of entrepreneur and all of them struggle with comparing themselves to others or feeling like they're not good enough or behind. And why is that? They're all intelligent, they're all bright, they're all very successful If you looked at the numbers, but somewhere along the line they forgot their why. And they're looking at all the external issues. And when we quiet the noise and look at their why, it's so easy to go okay, that's my why. Now I got to do this, these goals, I got to do this, this and this, and we're able to quiet and listen to our heart, because your intuition and your identity is not in your head, it's in your body, it's in your heart, it's in your soul.

Nikisha King:

That's such a good point. Now let me ask you a question. When we talk about the why, how do you help your clients discover their why? Is there an exercise you help them do? Is there a certain framework you give? Tell me a little bit more about that.

Christina L. Woods:

Yeah, the first question that I'm looking for and interested in is when did a client become disconnected from themselves at some point? When did they stop trusting themselves? Because it's very interesting At some point in our lives there is a moment, usually, when we stopped trusting our instincts, stopped trusting our intuition, perhaps stopped believing that we could go with our gut and had to go with our head or logic. Not that logic is bad, not that anything analytical is bad. Of course those things have a place. But our intuition is something that is always sort of your true north, that gut feeling that society has sort of said I don't know if you should really go with your gut. That's really not. Where's the statistics behind it? If you listen to your gut and your heart, how many times have you said I knew it, I knew it, I knew it, I knew it, I knew it. So, to answer your question, yes, I absolutely have a framework, and the first one, you know, obviously I use hypnosis, but with anyone you can do this even without hypnosis.

Christina L. Woods:

But you know, our subconscious mind is 95% of how we make decisions and how we see the world. Not 5% is our analytical, logical mind. So if you take a look at that old picture of the iceberg. We've all seen the iceberg only 5% is above the water. That is our analytical conscious mind. That's what we all think is running the ship, driving the ship, the car. Guess what? It's not. It's underneath the water, it's the lens and how you feel about the world and see the world is the subconscious mind. It's the autopilot. It's when you drive home from the grocery store and you don't remember driving home, and you're in the driveway or you're on the train and you're like I don't even remember if I got off on the right stop or if I. I don't even remember how I'm here in my driveway or I got home, I it's just happened. It's how we just sort of do things. That's autopilot.

Christina L. Woods:

So, quieting your mind, whether that's through journaling, whether that's through running, exercising, just taking some time to get quiet in hypnosis, I'm able to go back and find out when was the first time you stopped trusting yourself, you stopped listening to your instincts, and we'll find little tiny moments where maybe they were a child or a teenager. But you can do this on your own and say you know, I, nikisha, christina, feel because just like when, and you can start to find out, I feel annoyed, I feel anxious because just like when and you'll start to connect the dots of I feel this way, just like when I was 14, I felt this way, or just like when I was 10, and just start to really sink into feelings and thoughts. But getting quiet is undervalued. But for your creativity, your inspiration and the process I go through is, I'd like to find out.

Christina L. Woods:

When did we disconnect with ourselves? Because children go by intuition, right, I don't know about you, but I have kids and many times at a birthday party we pull out the cake and you would think kids would devour the cake. They take one bite, they run away. They don't even want it, they want to play. I don't know about you, but with adults they're like when's the cake coming out? Like they want the cake. So the kids, they just go with their gut. They're like no way I'm not stopping playing for cake.

Christina L. Woods:

Or a baby. You try to feed a baby when they're not hungry. They turn their head, they push it away. They instinctually know I am not hungry. I have eaten plenty of meals as an adult, but I am not hungry because dinner's down or somebody's serving me. I'm at an event, a banquet, a conference. It's time to eat. I eat, my stomach is telling me I'm not hungry, but it's time to eat. So, no, we have intuition about not just that, we have intuition about everything. So it's just finding that and trusting that again and asking ourselves when we feel. And so I'll kind of pause there, but there's a few other steps in the framework. What are your thoughts about that?

Nikisha King:

You said something about quiet. That is something that I find to be so interesting, because we're in now an era where we talk about ADHD and there are some people who are not diagnosed, but they still refer to it, and when they refer to it, they refer to it as not having the attention span. Yeah, and then I always question if they're not diagnosed, is it really that? Or is it you not having discipline or focus? Because you've been taught this through social media, through internet, we are jumping from window to window. If you're bored, you jump to every social media outlet, like TikTok. If that don't hold your attention, you're in Instagram. That doesn't hold your attention and you're from the old ages Facebook you know what I mean. You go down the line and then when you hear all the social media you have on your phone, then you go right into inbox. Who's emailing you? Right, no matter what time of day, you know you're not responding. They are very scared of quiet. Like to sit with their thoughts is the scariest thing on earth, and when I, last December or last year, I had made a agreement with myself to learn how to transition from being a mom to being a person who can travel by myself. I went to a lot of conferences alone. I was in hotel rooms alone because that was a fear of mine, right, anything can happen to me. Fear of mine, right, anything can happen to me. But I had to be realistic. If you're on a certain floor and you're somewhere, it's just you can do things to protect, right.

Nikisha King:

So I had to work on that and last year I did, which I was grateful for, and I did have moments that was so brand new to me where I felt like I didn't have anything to do. I felt like I wasn't doing anything. I felt like, oh my God, what is this? And I felt the buildup of this feeling, anxiety even. Yes, and that's what it is. I didn't put a name to it because I don't know what that is, but I'm assuming that's what it was.

Nikisha King:

And the first thing I did was went back to a place that I, when I went to Las Vegas, my brother introduced me to, a restaurant. When I got the anxiety feeling, I went straight back to that restaurant called Uber and went straight there and it eased my being. I don't know what it was. I don't know if it's the food comfort or it's. I know this. Yes, right, it was. I know this, yes, so when I was doing a last event for last year, I wanted to walk into this event with a different mindset. The event I went to was prestigious. It's a big investment. I've heard a lot of things said about it in regards to people are pretentious. People are very much into their looks and their energy and it's not always welcoming.

Nikisha King:

So I had to decide how would I want to show up to this event?

Nikisha King:

And in order to do that, I had to learn how to meditate. So I had to decide again will I wake up at 5.30 to meditate? Because around 6, 6.30, I start my kids prep lunch walk, I start my routine and I wanted to wake up earlier. And the thing is I added that to my routine At 5.30, I wake up and I sat and I would be in quiet because no one else is up and I would meditate and for some reason it worked really well. So I continued, because when I went to that event, the amount of energy I was giving off was so good that it felt like I was high.

Nikisha King:

I've never been high on drugs, but it was such a high because of what I was being validated. I was receiving it from people who didn't know me and they were able to express my energy. I mean, they was like, wow, your energy is so good. They could feel it. And they didn't know me. From Adam Eve they didn't know me. So I was doing the thing I was meditating to do because I was going to show up in that way. But my whole point is, when I sit now and quiet, I'm even working on the silver method. I don't know if you know, jose, yeah, so I'm doing Mindvalley. I love it very much.

Christina L. Woods:

That's how I discovered the hypnosis teacher that I studied with.

Nikisha King:

Good, I love that you and I have so much in common, but I'm starting that process and to sit quiet and to get to a place where I'm in my alpha stage and not in my beta. It's a gift. And that gift is to be able to quiet your thoughts. And I love it because when you quiet your thoughts, your true I am, your core curriculum appears and it speaks to you and it guides you, even when you have those valley moments. And when you mentioned quiet, I just think if some people just learned how to get quiet, what can they achieve? And when we say this maybe I'm wrong, but Christina is going to share with us Quiet means you can silence all those thoughts that kind of suppress your ability to be who you truly are.

Nikisha King:

There's so many thoughts we have 40 and plus 40,000, plus thoughts a day. And thoughts are weird because you have one thought and it becomes like it takes you on a journey, like you know how I said about my shirt being blue and white, and then you could be like, well, the collar don't look right, right. And you'd be like, well, it doesn't keep me warm, right, it just keeps going and going. I saw my stylist and this happened. It's like an entrepreneur who goes let me give you an example from an entrepreneur perspective. I want to do a list, but I don't know what lead magnet to put out there. But if I put this lead magnet out, I might get no clicks. If I get no clicks, oh my God, it's a failure. If it fails, I'm not doing it. They're ready, I'm not doing it. But they didn't do anything. They just had a thought about it and I'm just like how is that possible that you have a thought and can shut it down in the same minute and never have done it to even know if it would work?

Christina L. Woods:

Such a good point and I love your visualization and getting quiet. One of the hardest well, it's not the hardest, but one of the hardest things clients think that I ask them to do is to get quiet and journal. I have had clients ask me could you just ask me to do something else, please? You know a list of 20 things please? I'm like no, you just need to journal. I Susie feel you know, because Just start with that and they squirm and they complain and they do not want to do it, and after they do it for a while, okay, then we're going to add just like when, and then we might ask that feeling how old are you feeling?

Christina L. Woods:

How old do you think I am? And I promise you will get so much valuable insight into your subconscious just by asking yourself those questions, and I've had so many. You know, as a coach, we want to lead clients there and so many clients come to me and say I figured it out. I know now why you had me do this. I I'm ready to leave this lousy relationship. I'm ready to go in and talk with my boss about this situation or take my business to the next level. I see now why I'm stuck at this level.

Christina L. Woods:

Because I have been thinking that if I try that I might fail, I might be embarrassed, humiliated, just like when, you know, in third grade I just had a situation a client said you know she didn't make cheerleading and she was completely humiliated in her town. So you know, our feelings have a cellular memory in our body and that's important to understand and realize that. That's why I say our intuition is in our body, it's not in our head. So we logically might say that's ridiculous. I'm not. I'm not a cheerleader in high school anymore, might say that's ridiculous. I'm not a cheerleader in high school anymore. I'm a 40-year-old executive in charge of a multi-six-figure, seven-figure business.

Christina L. Woods:

That's great, but your body still feels like this. When you feel that way, it takes you right back. Your subconscious does not know how old you are and it doesn't care how old you are. So I want everyone to understand that. So do not feel guilty when you eat cookies at 10 o'clock at night to make yourself feel better, or when you regress and say I can't put out a lead magnet because no one will like me or they'll think it's stupid, because your body is taking you right back to a cellular memory. Joe dispenses book how to break the habit ofself talks all about that. So changing the cellular memory is how we change our identity, because our identity is in our cells, it's in our body. You change that, you change everything.

Nikisha King:

Exactly, and I would hope the listeners know that you can change it. Some people don't think you can, and when I say that I mean you, not someone else changing you. You have to change it, you have to decide. You want to change it.

Christina L. Woods:

Yeah, and I love the Latin meaning behind the word. Decide is to cut off, and so you decide, you make a decision to cut off, and I always say boundaries are what are you available for? I'm not available for believing that I can't change. I'm not available for that. We all have to get to that point. If we're going to make a big choice to change, we have to be available, for I don't want to feel this way anymore. I don't want to feel that way. I want to feel better. We might not know how to do it yet, but we have to know.

Christina L. Woods:

I got to go get the coach. I got to read the book. I got to do the thing. I got to wake up early. I got to try this quiet thing. I have to decide do I want to do something better and do I want to not be attached to all this outside validation that makes me have dopamine and feel great? Well, what if I go to a conference and everyone isn't friendly? Does that mean I should never go to a conference again or a mastermind group? No, because that's not your validation, but that's what we do, right?

Nikisha King:

Right, we do. And it's so interesting because if someone's not nice at this conference, sometimes here's the thing it's only one person and they make it a whole conference of 500 people. That's not nice. You know what I mean? That's the other thing. Let's also look at the facts when we're making decisions. Let's not use our emotions to drive the decisions. Let's not use our emotions to drive the decisions, because there are moments when you feel a certain way and you feel like everyone's responsible for that feeling, and sometimes that's not the story.

Christina L. Woods:

Sometimes it's just one person said something, you interpret it a certain way and now everyone at the conference is mean, right, right, and asking ourselves is that even true? You know, one of the best practices that I try to teach clients is to get to a place of neutrality. So, yes, we want to visualize. You know going into something successful and happy and whatever, let's say it is, going to a meeting and visualizing ourselves, you know, being dynamic and happy and or going on stage. You know doing it, doing it really well, but also seeing ourselves like, why would I be opposed to failing at it? Why would I be opposed to maybe stumbling on my words and not doing well? Why would I be opposed to that? And is that attached to a fear of approval, control or safety? Because if we believe if we fail, I'm not approved of, I am not safe, that's just as detrimental as it being attached to I'm validated if I am successful. So the best place is to be neutral because, guess what? You're amazing either way.

Christina L. Woods:

So when you aren't attached to it, that's freedom. That is woohoo. I get to go and I get to be me authentically me. Freedom to talk about my business, freedom to go up to people and, whether they like me or not, go on stage. Yeah, I missed up a little bit, but you know what? I'm human, I don't know about you. I love when I meet authentic people. They aren't perfect, they're authentic and you can tell the people that are like perfectly curated. Or the girl walking down the beach she was like, yeah, she's not perfect, but man, she's like rocking the confidence.

Nikisha King:

Yes, and it differs.

Nikisha King:

It differs when you just said to me, I had an aha moment for me personally. Attached, attached, yes, I was able to have a vision about. I had a small vision. It was about me holding books, getting off the elevator, entering like a loft space and as time went by, I developed this and this developed into a campus of maybe 10 acres where I have a lot of landscape. I have two structures, two buildings on it that are around 10 stories high and they actually wouldn't inhabit all of the brands and businesses I own. The other one is my coaching and my auditorium where I teach and speak.

Nikisha King:

And in order for me to blow this whole process from that one thing, it builds out my whole future of what is, it kept going. And as I was transforming from my scarcity to abundance mindset, there's something that happened where I could dream, I can share it, I don't have to sweat when I share it, I don't get nervous when I share it, and I used to. But what happened is that attachment, because when people create their one-year plan, three-year, five-year plan, whatever plan, they are so attached to it that they're scared they're going to fail. So they decide not to even dream. Yes, and what I realized is when you said that word, I am very clear that this vision is mine. No-transcript meaning if it happens, and I know it is. If it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it doesn't. But the doesn't doesn't mean it'll never happen, it just means it can happen and look different than what I see.

Nikisha King:

I know it can happen in so many different ways, because that's my life. My life is in variables. There's different ways things can come to light. They don't need to come the way I envision it, but the vision gives me the direction to move in. That's why my decisions are easier. Now I know when I'm saying yes to something or no, because my identity has allowed me to create this vision. So making decisions are just easier. What I cut off because it doesn't serve the vision and what I keep because it serves the vision. And I didn't realize until you said it. I am no longer attached to the outcome. Like I don't, the outcome doesn't matter, but the ability to even see it is what I love. Like that is where my passion, I can tell you what it looks like, I can design it, I am designing it and I can visually put it on a canvas and be like that's where we're going.

Christina L. Woods:

Well, I love what you're saying because it's the energy work I do, and people can call it whatever they want, because it's allowing the universe to co-conspire with you. You don't have any rules about what it looks like or how it's going to happen, because you know as well as I do, tomorrow you can wake up with a brand new idea because you're not attached to you might wake up and go. I have a new idea. This is how it could happen. I want to add this to my business. I want to take away this.

Christina L. Woods:

It doesn't matter, because the feeling, the vision, the feeling of abundance, the feeling is what you want. More of the how to the details, it doesn't really matter. That doesn't matter. Yes, that doesn't mean you don't have a goal and a plan and a quarterly plan and all those things. But it can change gears, it can look different. The energy, you know those things can change. But you are open and playful for room and ideas and creativity and you allow, you have to allow for that space. That's what the quietness is for your intuition. If you are bogged down in the, it has to happen. This way, your intuition is literally shut down, and that is you. That's your essence.

Nikisha King:

So true, it is your true.

Christina L. Woods:

I am.

Nikisha King:

It is your true identity. Exactly Now, in concluding or getting to the end, what I would like is to give our listeners an action plan or some things that they can do to learn about their core curriculum. So, if you can share with me maybe three things that you help your clients with in regards to starting their journey, three simple things. I think one of them you mentioned journaling, but I want you to share more about that, even giving them a prompt, because I think that was so good.

Christina L. Woods:

Yeah, I would say definitely some kind of writing, because writing is so powerful. So, yes, a prompt would be like I mentioned I their name, I, christina, feel because, and just it's a free writing, so just don't think about it, just let it come out. Whatever you think, I'm so annoyed at my dog right now Just let it come out. I so-and-so feel because. And if they want to add just like when, just let that come out too, and do that every day for a few weeks. Just let that come out and you'll start to find more and more themes. And you also can take it from there and say I'm going to ask this feeling of annoyance or this feeling of, and you want to try to focus on any feelings that might be coming up that are lower than love. And if your listeners want to look up the scale of consciousness, there's a scale, a resonance. Everything is energy. You'll be able to see anything lower than love. So you know anything frustration, some of those things we're not always in this resonance of. You know butterflies and unicorns.

Christina L. Woods:

So you know we get annoyed, those things. So anything that comes up because my clients will say, but I'm feeling love, ok, but you're probably feeling something else, too A little irritated, maybe your shoes didn't go on right, I don't know, so some type of that I would also recommend that we sit in a moment and ask ourselves when in the last 24 hours so if we are feeling annoyed, if we are feeling whatever we're feeling, to shift. A real pivot exercise that I recommend is when in the last 24 hours did they feel approved of, in control, or safe or happy or joyful? When in the last 24 hours did they feel that Pick maybe a few days, 24 hours, because so often we are trying to achieve something from the wrong energy. And so a quick pivot. You can do this walking down the hall to a meeting, walking to the dinner table to meet your children for dinner, you can do it in the car, it doesn't matter, no one knows you're doing it. But if you think of in the last 24 hours okay, yeah, I did feel calm when my dog was licking my face okay, let your body feel that energy, you will find you quickly can shift and pivot and then think about the thing that made you feel irritated. So, okay, I've pivoted my energy. Now I'm going to think about that meeting I have to go to. You are in a higher vibration now. You will not be able to go into that meeting in the same vibration. You'll be able to go into it at a much higher vibration. So that is such a powerful exercise, a pivot exercise. So that's really powerful.

Christina L. Woods:

And, last but not least, I would say quieting the noise, but trusting we have the power to heal ourselves. So you know we have the answers within. I see clients for physical issues. I see clients for irritable bowel syndrome, migraines, things that doctors can't help them with. I'm not saying I'm a doctor Of course I'm not a doctor but how is it that, through subconscious work, through listening to an audio recording, through repetition by powerful words, by visualization, that someone that has had irritable bowel syndrome or migraines for 10 years, 20 years, how is it, by listening to something, that they go away?

Christina L. Woods:

Because the words we say to ourselves are very powerful. So I'd ask that you take an inventory of what are you saying to yourself every day and be honest. No one needs to know what you're saying to yourself, but if you're saying, this traffic is killing me or my kids are driving me crazy. I promise you your body only your subconscious mind will believe you and will respond accordingly oh, it's killing you. Let me give you a migraine so you don't need to go into the office. Let me give you some anxiety so you don't need to go to that party on Saturday night. Let me make it a little harder for you because I'm gonna help you out. Your mind, your subconscious mind's job is to keep you safe. The words you say are powerful, so take an inventory of the words you're using. They will literally change your life.

Nikisha King:

Thank you so much, and that's so good, because all three of those are things that I literally worked on. I literally like I read a book Project 369. I don't know if you heard of it.

Christina L. Woods:

Of course.

Nikisha King:

Yep Got it right there and I had a planner and they would have me recap my day, the faces my happy face, my sad wherever I am, and it would ask what emotion made you feel and why you felt the emotion. And I started to practice that every night so I could be mindful of where I am and what I'm going to do the next day to improve, or what have I succeeded at. And the fact of words having power. Oh my gosh, christina, when I was younger, in college I think I was really I don't know if you're familiar with Enneagram, but I felt like I was an eight, because I would just say any and anything, because I thought it was the truth. Yes, because I was like I am not sugarcoating anything for anyone.

Christina L. Woods:

Right.

Nikisha King:

Say words, but the words I chose were never service words or positive words. They're words that can hurt.

Christina L. Woods:

Yes, yes and.

Nikisha King:

I remember one day understanding that when I was in maybe my thirties and deciding to up my vocabulary, words that can have the same understanding. But they have a little bit. They don't offend, they don't do that and I would be able to speak. So today, which is so interesting, because when I was in college, my teachers very much criticized my writing because my mom was an immigrant. So I was first gen, so the fact that my mom's from the Caribbean, they don't speak English really well or high literacy I didn't get that gift, yeah, yeah. So my whole elementary, high school, college, my writing was not the best. So people, my teachers, criticized it and therefore I got that gift.

Nikisha King:

But today, when I speak, people will tell me how eloquent I speak and I'm like what are you talking about? Because that subconscious still lives here. I still doubt when I'm speaking it doesn't sound what I think it should sound like, which I have no idea. But I've improved, but I've only improved because I also am mindful about the words I choose when I speak to people. I'm mindful the way I say my words. But this is because it was my past issue and I wanted to make it better. And it's interesting because these are the things I had to do, especially to myself, which is what you shared. Which is what you shared. I had to learn how to fall in love with me.

Christina L. Woods:

Yes, yes, I love that and all these things wrapped together, you're right Like feel. You know, taking the time to pause and see how you feel, to check in and pivoting. You know, thinking of a moment when we felt happy or sad, because what we're doing in that pivot exercise I share is we're telling ourselves wait a second. Right now I don't feel happy, but have I ever felt happy? Yes, I have. In fact, we could probably think of beyond 24 hours.

Christina L. Woods:

Last week, last year, last month, many times I felt happy. Actually, let me think of those moments so that I can remind myself. And I will again, I will again and again, and again. Maybe not in this moment, I don remind myself and I will again. I will again and again, and again. Maybe not in this moment, I don't, but I will again. And it's important because we all know celebrating small wins. But when we're in a moment of feeling agitated or uncomfortable or sad or even depressed, it's hard. But this little pivot exercises let me just think of something in the last couple of days that felt good and it's almost always involves an animal, or a walk in the park or seeing a leaf fall off a tree. It's nothing massive, it's just a little life moment that feels good. We pivot our energy and we look at life differently. And words you know to serve and when we serve others and just remember that in any way, but serving ourselves, like you said, loving ourselves and having compassion for ourselves it starts there.

Nikisha King:

It does. And even when I say that I'm mindful, because some people will tell you they love themselves, but in the next, next, when you would hear them, it's like a bad and bruised relationship. It's that cycle. Right, I love you but that harm you in ways, and I tell people it's different for me. Falling in love with me allows me to decide freely, without being attached. That is it. That is my definition of what loving myself is. Love it when I do things. I'm not attached to it and I can decide if it serves me so much easier. That is what love means to me.

Nikisha King:

There are moments where we're all hungry in our house and I'm like, in order for me to serve you, I got to eat, and if I don't eat, I promise you of you. I got to eat, and if I don't eat, I promise you I'm going to get agitated. I can vocalize to people that I need to eat, but I don't have to. You know how they have that word. What is that? Angry or hungry.

Nikisha King:

Yeah, I don't get there. There are moments when I'm hungry and I'm feeling the energy drain and someone's asking me or demanding something of me and I can nicely look at them and go here's what's happening. I'm losing energy and as I lose energy, I feel like I'm about to get upset. So, before I get there, is it okay with you if I eat and not answer you at this moment in time when you're able to do that and you can still be calm and say it yeah, I know for a fact I've come far absolutely, absolutely.

Christina L. Woods:

And just sharing all these things I think is so important so other people don't feel alone and isolated, and learn these practices.

Nikisha King:

Yeah, so I feel like all of your gold nuggets you shared. I'd like, oh my god, and I still, I don't stop. It's not a learn it and it's done with moment. It's a management moment, it is a journey, it is and it keeps going. I'm going to always write, I'm always going to journal, I'm always going to have valleys, right, because that is life. It's a just situation. It's not a I'm always going to be in the clouds. I'm going to have a down moment, but I get to discover why I'm having a down moment where some people don't choose to discover that. That's what you're sharing. That's what the quiet time is. It's like why are you having this moment? Get curious right, absolutely, yeah. So I feel like everything you're sharing, oh, my goodness.

Nikisha King:

Thank you. Thank you for being in the world, thank you for deciding to do this second career. Thank you Because something could have stopped you from deciding this. Your security in your first career could have made you feel so comfortable. That second career didn't feel like you can even do it, and that's what a lot of entrepreneurs go through when they're transitioning from a great opportunity to something new. When you're an entrepreneur and you might have a spouse that's holding the family together financially. There's a lot of things that we're uncomfortable with, and the uncomfort is where we grow, but we just don't know that because we haven't seen the evidence, we haven't paid attention, because we haven't had the quiet time to pay attention. So it's truly, truly an honor to have you in the world, because I know what you do is something I do, but I know we can't do it alone.

Nikisha King:

It's no way and we were put here for a reason to do what we do, and I'm grateful we found our reason, because now we can serve from a place that has nothing to do with us, but to give from the gift that we have and we've received from our core curriculum.

Christina L. Woods:

I'm so grateful to be here. Just hearing your words, the way you express yourself, sharing stories, it's really, really, truly a gift, thank you.

Nikisha King:

Thank you. Thank you, my dear. So we are going to conclude this episode with our Identity Series, leading Her Way podcast, and I truly hope, if you love this, to please share it with someone who can also get what they require for their journey in the business world, in their personal world. This episode, in my opinion, was a really good one and, first and foremost, me and Christine are meeting for the first time in this episode, but I'm grateful to say this will not be our only time chatting, and thank you so much once again, christina.

Christina L. Woods:

Thank you.

Nikisha King:

Nikisha

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