Ep 61: Identity Series - From Anxiety to Clarity for Creative Entrepreneurs

Ever wondered how understanding your true identity can transform your personal and professional life?

In our final season 2 episode, I'll take you on a heartfelt journey of self-discovery and growth. Drawing from my personal experiences, including the triumphs of my children and my own development through mentorship, I share how celebrating even the smallest achievements can fuel your journey. Let's explore the powerful impact of recognizing your inherent intelligence and potential, and how journaling about your identity can be a game-changer in navigating external influences.

Three takeaways from today's episode:

1. Celebrate Small Achievements: Recognize and celebrate even the smallest milestones in your journey. These achievements can fuel your motivation and drive you towards greater success.

2. Acknowledge Your Intelligence and Potential: Embrace the power of your inherent intelligence and potential. Understand that you have the capability to overcome challenges and achieve your goals.

3. Journal About Your Identity: Engage in regular journaling to explore and solidify your sense of identity. This practice can help you navigate external influences and stay true to yourself.

If this episode resonated with you, don't keep it to yourself! Share it with your colleagues, friends, and family to ensure they are supported in their personal and business journeys. Let's all unlock our true potential and create a network of empowered individuals.

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• 0:21 Discovering Your True Identity Through Growth
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Transcript

Nikisha King: 0:21

Hello, gorgeous, welcome to NK Production Leading Her Way podcast, where we see the human, evolving and resilient spirit in you. I'm your host, N nikisha, and welcome to the final Identity Series episode. Today I am going to be wrapping up, I would say, season two. I am planning to do a summer break because I am an entrepreneur and I am a mom and the fact that my little ones have time off of school. I will love to enjoy them, but I will be back, of course, for my birthday month in September to help you on your journey. But what I wanted to do is I have the pleasure of showing up in the world and in showing up in the world, what does that mean? That mean gracing, or I should say, being graced with the presence of entrepreneurs in many rooms where I do bridal events or other workshops, where I get to go, and these amazing humans who are running businesses and having a life and all the things look to me for information, information on their way that they see building their business, the way that they're growing their business. I have the pleasure of entrepreneurs who are starting out. If you know what starting out feels like, it's so scary to know that you have to invest in building your business when you're making that profit and that profit becomes the proof that you can do the business. And now you got to reinvest it in your professional development. How scary is that. And for them to trust me is big.

Nikisha King: 2:10

So in this identity series, what I'm going to focus on is who am I? And when I say it it sounds like I'm telling you who I am, but in reality I'm asking you who are you? And I want you to really answer that. I want you to take some time to pull out that notebook, let's journal prompt that. Write that on the top of your page. Five minute timer and write who am I? The reason this is important is because, with a lot of external noise, in this podcast we have spoke about containers, we spoke about social media, we spoke about being in the world period. Sometimes we lose ourself because there are a lot of different values put on us from the external. That is what the identity series is about, and when we get lost in our identity, we become lost in the direction we're going. And getting lost is not a problem, don't get me wrong. It just extends the time for you to do what you're here to do, and sometimes people's time gets so extended that they never get to fulfill their reasoning of being here and remember to be here does not need to be big. The reason you're here is easily to just show up in my life and go Nikisha, you should change your business name like that, and then that's it. That was your moment for me, and that has happened. Yes, my new brand name. It happened because someone told me and I didn't know them, but I took heed to them because it was already in me. Right, I was already contemplating changing my name. They just confirmed it because they were serving their purpose.

Nikisha King: 3:59

Get it Now. Understand that I truly, truly, am grateful for what my life has brought me to today, based on who I was. Every year since I've been on this earth, every year I showed up differently. And when I say that I didn't know, I was showing up differently. But every year when I learned something, when I had the opportunity to be taught from a coach, from a group, read a book, listen to a podcast, when I did the things that put nourishment in me and I had an aha moment, I came out better the next year. This is life. This is what I tremendously enjoy.

Nikisha King: 4:47

Growing is something that creates us to be who we are and through growing it's by the information we choose to put in. What are you choosing to put in? To develop who you are, to define who you are, to get that clear understanding of who you are. You are someone who is special. You are someone who is amazing, intelligent and even when I say that word, I know inside of you you think sometimes it's not true. But the reason you struggle with that is because you honestly think it's not true. But I'm telling you it is. The reason I know how intelligent and smart you are is because your ability to show up and do something is tremendous, even though you make it feel like it's something small. It's not.

Nikisha King: 5:46

In working with my clients and in working with my family, we celebrate the things we've done, big, small. I try to get rid of those words because they're not big and small, they are just is. So, for instance, when my youngest, who I love, even comes up with the idea that the letter F, when you fill in it like a test, means fantastic, I laugh out loud. Yes, she does. She says that to me. Thank God she doesn't bring home Fs. I'm grateful we do have an agreement for A's. She does get paid for her A's and her B's, so, but she makes joke of it, about it being fantastic and I love her for that and I celebrate that. When my oldest comes home and she has gotten something like this achievement award or something where we celebrate that, we have a good time putting it up on the wall, we have a good time remembering the experience she had, even when that time has passed.

Nikisha King: 6:53

A lot of us as entrepreneurs do not have the ideology or the patience to track and measure our growth, and that's one thing I've learned with my mentor. I love my mentor. I'm so grateful that she came into my life and I'm grateful I walked up to her and asked her to be my mentor. She is the co-founder of Party Sleep. It's a marketing tool for all venues, event industry. It's an amazing, amazing platform. When I walked up to her and asked her to mentor me, she was, and I told her what the requirements are and she said yes, and I don't think a lot of people would even dare do that. But she has educated me about something called OKRs. This is how I fell in love with her. She was presenting it at one of our networking events. Okrs are objectives, key results. They're similar to goals. They're just a little bit more intentional and you can track it. Key results are number metrics, retract metrics. It's like KPIs, but not on an individual level, it's like a group where we use it.

Nikisha King: 7:58

When she introduced it to me, I totally fell in love with it and once I started to use it in my business, with my COO, with my clients, it started to change the way I think. And when I started to look at measuring and tracking and doing the work, the information I was gathering of how many sales I had, how many leads, when I thought I wasn't doing well, I was doing exceptionally well, making so much and not realizing it because I never tracked it. Well, making so much and not realizing it because I never tracked it. Yes, I have QuickBooks. Yes, I love it, but how many of us look at our P&Ls and track it and break it down and understand what's happening, understand the story? But that's something who I am is developing becoming a lover of numbers and not numbers and money numbers any numbers of numbers and not numbers and money numbers any numbers the understanding of what it's translating and speaking to me about.

Nikisha King: 8:58

So in doing OKRs, I learned how to measure and track and I kind of set measurements for my goals. I know what I have to achieve. So I'm not just working in a general state of mind. A goal can be general, like some people say. I have a goal to make $200,000. But that goal, what do you have to do for that goal? For me, the $200,000 is a key result. It's a metric, it's a measurable item. The objective is to make a ton of money right To something that will fuel my insides, make me go, yes, get ignited and then work really hard to obtain that key result. That's how objective, key results kind of work. Go, google it and learn more. But that's my interpretation and that's it. So in working on who you are, you should learn how to track or measure your results. What are you working towards? What have you achieved? Add numbers to it. I've achieved this many of those. I have achieved this many of those. It allows you to see your progress. Today you achieved 200,000. Tomorrow you achieve 400,000. How? What changed? What did you do? What was different?

Nikisha King: 10:12

We get so stuck on the numbers and how many people and all the things, but we forget what we have to do to get those people into our world, to help them, not to get them for money, but to help them, to give them value, to help them succeed as a coach, as an entrepreneur. The clients who trust me, who have worked so hard for that fuel aka cash, trust me. You know, when they tap on my shoulders to allow me into their world, into their business, what I have to do? I have to wake up, I have to create an actual plan and then I have to implement that plan with them and I love it because I show them the plan and it keeps us on course of what we're going to do to help them get what they are looking for. To be able to do that, it feels like being an educator.

Nikisha King: 11:06

I am no way, no shape, an educator. I love you guys from the bottom of my heart, but I do have to write a plan, a curriculum plan, an action plan, whatever you want to call it. And then, after we have that actual meeting, I have to write a progress report. What came out of that? What happened? Did the action go well? Did we complete a goal? The progress notes have to be done and the action plan, and it takes time, but it's client work and the more I do it, the more I can make it, better systemized, and then that's how I grow my team, because now they come in, this is the outline, this is how we do it, and then they can continue helping other people. Now it's not only me doing it, but more people who are in line with me, wanting to help other entrepreneurs on their journey. Can you imagine? This is who I am. Guys, I'm sharing a little bit about me, but I'm telling you the love of my clients, the people, the people I speak to to see them in their glory, to see them when things are not working out. I get that because I am them. There are days I experienced that, but the great thing is I had to do the work to get to the other side. Now I know what the work I did to get to the other side. Guess what I can give to them to get to their other side in their own journey?

Nikisha King: 12:34

Being or learning who you are is truly, truly important. If you don't have direction, you may not end up anywhere. You hope to end up. I love hope. However, it sometimes robs us of what we can actually do, because in hope there is no action. But if you hope and have action included. Together, side by side, there is a possibility of a vision, the direction, and you move towards that. I truly, truly love this whole process. I love being here adding value to your world. I love that you allow me to by showing up and listening. There's a little side note of people telling me how calming my voice is. And can I be honest with you. There are moments I think am I putting you to sleep? Am I doing something negative? And then I realize I'm not. I realize the voice I was given the one you hear and the one where I show up in the world and I help so many that voice is my gift and I didn't know I had this gift until maybe five years ago when it started to develop. And my voice is common and I love that because if someone can find peace, tranquility, a decrease of anxiety, opportunities, possibilities in this voice, then that's one of the best gifts in the world and I'm grateful for it and I thank you for it and I will keep using it and keep building on it. So I truly, truly appreciate you guys for showing up and enjoying this podcast called Leading Her Way.

Nikisha King: 14:44

As a woman entrepreneur, as a woman of color. As a woman who love all human beings, I believe in leading in my way. There are moments where someone will tell me I should and shouldn't, and I'm open to it. But I know my spirit has the ability to discern what's for me and what's not for me, and I tell my clients that all the time. If there's something I share with you and it's not for you, go Nikisha, it's not for me, and I will then go great. Tell me what you would like to do and I would meet you where you are. I don't want my clients to meet me where I'm at. I want to meet them where they are. I want to help them determine who they are on their journey. So this is always a great, great moment for me, because when I go on hiatus, I come back with a whole load of information and, trust me, I'm going on hiatus to have a great time with family, but also to show up 100% in the lives of others, and in that journey I'm going to learn so much from them as much as they learn from me, because together we are great. Individually we still are great, but can you imagine how much more we gain when we're a community, a community that encourages our growth and not stifles it. So, therefore, I look forward to seeing you in September and I look forward to coming back with a great season of Leading Her Way podcast. Have an amazing time with the people you love and enjoy, and I will see you soon.

Nikisha King: 16:38

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Nikisha King: 17:13

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